Food For Thought: The Death of A Child

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One of the saddest parts of life is death, but the death of a child is probably the most painful thing anyone could ever go through. I watched my grandparents deal with the loss of my uncle, which was the first time I heard the phrase, “parents aren’t supposed to bury their children.”

Wednesday, February 13

My new girlfriend and I finally decided it was time for us to meet each other’s kids, and let them meet as well. We took them to CiCi’s pizza for dinner and we all had fun. She asked her daughter (7 years old) if she approved of me, and she shook her head yes. My daughter (8 years old) was super excited and kept saying she was going to have a new sister. They’re one year apart and act almost exactly alike.

Thursday, February 14

We were enjoying our first Valentine’s Day together. Both of our kids were with their other parent’s so we enjoyed our day.

Friday, February 15

My girlfriend gets a call from her child’s father to pick her daughter up from school because she’s throwing up. She had a fever and diarrhea. The vomiting and diarrhea kept up all night.

Saturday, February 16

My gf took her daughter to the emergency room. She was still up, but looked like the average sick child. Her daughter’s condition wasn’t great and she was dehydrated, so they had her hooked up to an I.V. and drinking lots of juice and water. They thought it might be her appendix, but tests didn’t turn up anything.

Sunday, February 17

I was at home and got a text saying her daughter was now on life support and they didn’t know what was making her sick. My gf was trying to hold it together, but she wasn’t OK.

Monday, February 18

Early this morning around 5am PST, I got a text saying her daughter passed. It was as surreal moment because just days ago she seemed perfectly fine. Less than a week later and she is no longer with us. This has been a surreal experience and I still haven’t told me daughter because I’m not even sure how to tell her that she isn’t going to be a big sister.

My gf posted updates and already talked about it on FB, which is the only reason I’m sharing this here. Perhaps the hardest part of all of this is not knowing what to do. We’ve been looking at houses together with enough room for the four of us… and to make matters worse, yesterday we took her daughter roses. My gf loves roses like most women, but now I’m not sure if I should get her any because I don’t want to trigger anything or upset her even more since that was the last gift she gave her daughter.

The Takeaway

If you have children, spend time with them, text them, and call them. You never know when or if it’s going to be your last time seeing them. Her daughter was 7, perfectly find on Wednesday, and gone Monday morning. Don’t take anything for granted because tomorrow is truly not promised no matter how old or young we are.

Please keep us all in prayer.

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By Black History In The Bible

"And because I tell you the truth, ye believe me not. Which of you convinceth me of sin? And if I say the truth, why do ye not believe me? He that is of God heareth God's words: ye therefore hear them not, because ye are not of God." - John 8:45-47


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